The death of a loved one is a complicated stage in life. It is often difficult to overcome the shock of leaving. Organizing the funeral ceremony allows you to say a final goodbye to your loved one. These can take different forms and depend on the last wishes of the deceased.
In France, 39% of deceased people are cremated according to the French Federation of Cremation. It is therefore necessary to choose an urn in which the person’s ashes will be kept permanently or until they are dispersed, depending on the family’s choice. Since 2008, it has been prohibited by law to keep a loved one’s funeral urn at home.
The funeral urn must reflect the image of the deceased. The choice of materials, patterns and colors allows a personalization worthy of the dead person.
Getting over grief is a long and difficult process
Losing a loved one is always a complicated stage in life. It takes time to accept the departure of this loved one. The rejection of death, the sadness, the feeling of injustice, the psychological shock of the news are all things that must be overcome and that make mourning difficult.
To facilitate the period of mourning, it is sometimes important to be able to see the body of the deceased or to attend the funeral ceremony. This is the best way to integrate the disappearance and become aware of the departure. In addition, this ceremony is a way to pay a final tribute to the missing person and say a last goodbye. If you have the opportunity, help organize the funeral. This will help you overcome your anxiety and feelings of guilt.
Many emotions run through us when someone loved leaves us. Don’t try to hide them. Accept them and welcome them. They will help you better understand the relationship you had with the deceased and the bond between you.
Don’t hesitate to talk about your feelings. Dialogue with someone who is benevolent allows you to free yourself from certain anxieties. Having a conversation about the missing person with someone who also went through the shock of the disappearance teaches you about the deceased. Sometimes even this helps to better understand the esteem the deceased had for you.
Don’t beat yourself up. The causes of death related to an accident or sudden death, can make us feel guilty for not having done what was necessary to prevent the tragedy. But, keep in mind that we are only humans, we cannot anticipate this stuff. There is no point in blaming yourself for what has happened. Unfortunately, it is impossible to go back and it is in your psychological health not to blame yourself.
So that you don’t run around in a loop and you can’t think of anything else, mind yourself. Some find comfort in reading, others find it in manual activities such as crafts, gardening, sewing, painting. Physical activity can also help you get away from it all for a while. Find something you’re passionate about, but don’t just sit there and do nothing. This is the worst way to maintain negative thoughts.
To conclude, when a loved one leaves us, it is important to pay them a last worthy tribute. This is why it is important to respect the last wishes of the deceased.
If the deceased had expressed his wish to be cremated, it is important to respect this choice and to find him the funeral urn that will best represent him. This urn should match the tastes of the family as well. Also, adapt the materials of the urn according to the destination of the ashes.
If the ashes need to be transported, follow the regulations in force for this. Ensure that the funeral urn is always transported with respect for the dignity of the deceased.
After the funeral is over, it takes time to mourn the person. Take the time you need. The emotions you go through in these difficult times are normal emotions and are necessary for accepting the death of your loved one. Don’t try to hide these emotions. Instead, use them to get to know yourself better and to understand your love for that loved one. Surround yourself with attentive and caring people who will help you get through this ordeal.